What is a Blow job? Facts and How to Give a Great Blow Job

Spicing up your relationship should not be so burdensome. There are numerous ways to maintain the sexual spice in your relationship with your significant other. Blow job has been known to be one of the best ways to preserve lovers’ sexual connection, and topping your blowjob game would do your relationship so much good.

What is a  Blowjob

A blowjob is a form of oral sex where you take your partner’s penis in your mouth and suck it or lick it for their pleasure. Ideally, a great blowjob involves more sucking than anything else. You’ll learn more about this as we proceed. Other names for blowjobs include Bj, giving head, going down, and fellatio. Fellatio is the technical term for blowjobs.

Why is it called Blowjob?

Oral sex has existed for a while now, but where did the term “blow job” originate? And why is it called a blow job anyway? When you think about it, a blow job doesn’t require any blowing. It’s more of sucking, licking, kissing, and maybe biting (if you’re into that type of thing). In this section, we will briefly discuss the origin of blowjobs and how they got that name.

Some people think the term is coined from the one previously used in the Victorian era- “below job.” If you think about it, it makes sense to a large degree, but we believe it goes deeper than that.

Sex and relationship expert Carmel Jones suggests that the term “blowjob” started out being used as a derogatory remark about women who performed them.  She believes in this standpoint for several reasons- the first is that the term “blowsy” refers to untidy women or women with red puffy faces. In the 17th century, the word “blowjob” was a misogynistic slang used to describe prostitutes.

Admittedly, oral sex is seen in a different light in modern times. Initially, it was considered dirty and taboo even when many people engaged in it; suffice to say that the whole word stemmed from something initially meant to stigmatize women. As a result of evolution, exposure, and better understanding, today, women can engage in oral sex without considering it taboo no matter who they do it with.

It is safe to say that the stigmatization of being a “less than ladylike” or “dirty woman” for giving blowjobs stopped recently- in our modern times. The term is seen as a way to describe oral sex, especially now that more people accept women being involved in sexual roles.

Facts about Blowjob

Over the years, the attention and care for oral sex (mainly, blowjob) is unmatched, and a relationship or love affair that lacks the full inclusion of it might face unsteadiness. Blowjobs don’t make a strong relationship with your partner, but it’s one thing to keep the relationship sexually healthy. Some facts about blowjob are;

  1. The term “Fellatio” is the technical term used to describe oral sex. It’s not hard to see why we don’t use it often ourselves-
  1. “Fellatio” is derived from the Latin word “fellāre” meaning to suck. (Latin is known to be one of the languages of love; hence the finesse in this term’s description. Cool, right?)
  1. In ancient Greece, blowjobs were referred to as “playing the flute” (in our opinion, blowjobs are almost as beautiful as making music, or what do you think?)
  1. Bats are the only other animals that engage in oral sex. Male bats perform oral sex on females to make the sex last longer. Females also lick male bat penises during sex itself.
  1. Fruits such as kiwis and pineapples can make your cum taste sweet (when they say “you are what you eat,” we think they meant it literally)
  1. Blowjobs were given as punishment for breaking the law. This happened back in ancient Roman times. If you wrong someone, you will be asked to give head to the person you wrong. Archeologists have discovered graffiti that backs up this claim. The graffiti reads “Lahis fellat assibus duobus,” which roughly translates to “Lahis gives head for half a sentence.” (What an era!!!)
  1. In Egyptian mythology, the goddess Isis resurrected her brother by giving him a blowjob. After being killed and chopped to pieces, she assembled his body and “blew life” into him by sucking his penis. (Are you still doubting the power of blowjobs?)
  1. Ancient India depicts a blowjob as sucking a mango and not a banana. It’s weird. You would think the owners of the Kama Sutra would’ve used a fruit/food closer to the real deal to describe the act.
  1. Ancient Rome believes that receiving trumps giving. Back in ancient Rome, noblemen and soldiers received blowjobs from slaves and lower-class women. Men were active players in the act, and women were passive since men “gave” their penises.

Rome was very patriarchal at the time, so it makes sense that the concept of blowjobs supported the notion that men are superior to women. These men could receive blowjobs but could not return the favor to women. (Quite uneven if you ask me)

How to Give a Great Blowjob for Beginners

Chances are you have never given a blowjob before, and you want to be sure you’re doing it right. Congratulations, you’re in the right place.

There is also the possibility that this isn’t your first time. You’ve given head before, maybe once or twice, but you’re still not sure you’re doing it right. Well, this is still the place to be.

Relax, we’re here to teach you how to give a great blowjob.

Foreplay

Most people don’t even enjoy the actual act of sex. What gets them is what happens before sex. The kissing, licking, biting, squeezing, groping, spanking, and everything else in between. The best part about sex is the buildup- that’s what makes foreplay so much fun. What this means is you shouldn’t be in a hurry to take off his belt, pull down his pants, and force his penis down your mouth. Take your sweet time, honey; chances are he’s not going anywhere soon. So what’s the hurry?

The same way you would want your body explored in the same way he wants to be explored. Take our word for it, he might not say it, but he would love it if you did.

Kiss a body, lick his nipples, bite his earlobes or his neck (maybe even leave a hickey there *wink wink*)

Once you take his pants off, enjoy the moment to the fullest. You’ve both earned it.

Lubrication

Some of you might have made a face reading that, but the truth is lubrication is essential for men too. If you want your blowjob to feel unique, then you need to get things wet, very wet. An easy way to do this is to use your tongue and work your way up and down your partner’s penis.

Then slowly take in as much of his penis that you can handle. You can’t fake being a pornstar sweetheart, if you can’t get a deep throat, then please don’t. It’s not worth ruining the mood with non-stop choking or coughing. If you don’t have strong gag reflexes, you might even vomit all over his chest (honestly not the kind of wetness you are looking for.)

Here’s a little secret that many beginners don’t know- a good blowjob has nothing to do with how deep you can go. Instead, it’s about how good your technique is. Take only as much as you can

 (Tip: you can use your hand as a stopper to limit how much goes into your mouth)

Rhythm

A blowjob could last for mere seconds or for as long as 15 minutes. It all depends on how long it takes your man to cum. And we think this is also dependent on your rhythm.

In this case, your rhythm is how fast or how slow you’re taking things. Since both you and your partner will be disappointed if it was over in 15-30 seconds, we recommend that you do two things-

  • Pick a comfortable pace/rhythm.
  • Stick to it

Blowjobs are about slowly building up to a climax. Suddenly changing your rhythm or even stopping can erase all the progress you’ve made and leave your partner as flaccid as when you started.

Suck! Suck!! Suck!!!

This is the fun part. Earlier on, we mentioned how strange it is for blowjobs to be called blowjobs when no actual blowing is involved. To give a good head, you need to suck, not blow. Merely having a man’s penis in your mouth is easy for you and might excite you even, but for him, it’s nothing. He won’t even feel it. If your aim is getting your man as turned on as you are, then you have to suck on him.

Keep in mind that you’re trying to mimic the environment of a vagina. So gently close your lips on his penis (without your teeth, of course) and suck on him. The better you can imitate a vagina, the better it’ll be for both of you.

No Teeth

There’s only one way to say this: all teeth on a dick will cause us pain. And it’s not the right kind. Even if your man is into little teeth when you’re giving him head, he doesn’t expect you to bite into it like a poorly cooked oxtail.

Handy Manny

It takes more than your mouth to give a proper blowjob. It takes your entire body to give a great blowjob. We encourage you to be as active as possible. Rub his legs, thighs, and face. Play with his nipples, kiss his belly; do something else.

And please, by all means, use your hands. This is a rule of thumb in the world of giving head. Use your hand to mimic an up and down movement as your mouth does the same on his penis. You can even use your free hand to do something else. Go crazy, own it!

To Spit to Swallow?

We’ll come right out and be honest with you; whether you spit or swallow in the end depends on you. It’s a matter of personal preference. It can be sexy for some people, while for others, it’s not their cup of tea.

Chances of catching an STD are significantly reduced during oral sex. However, if you plan to swallow your partner’s semen, then the chances are higher, and you should consult your health care provider before doing so. If you are all about safety (and we think you should be), then blowing a load in your mouth shouldn’t even be an option. But if it’s someone you are comfortable with, e.g., your spouse, then, by all means, have fun.

This is not to say that you cannot get infections from your husband or partner; the chances are just limited.

Sexy Blowjob Positions

In this section of our guide on how to give a great blowjob, we shared three sexy blowjob positions that will blow your partner’s mind.

The Face Fuck

Women love the idea of sitting on their partner’s face and feeling their beard tickle your thighs while their hands are also busy. Maybe caressing the small of your back or gently stroking your clitoris. Who says men can’t join in on the fun too?

In this position, your partner straddles your face as you lie flat on your back, and then he thrusts into your mouth to give himself a blowjob. Admittedly, this position can be a lot for many people (nothing to be ashamed of).

Tip: use your hand to limit how deep he can go, so you don’t end up choking or being uncomfortable. You can use your other hand to masturbate or even use a vibrator down there.

Double Dawn

This position is closer to the typical blowjob position where you get on your knees. Have your partner stand in front of you while you make your way up to his penis. Kissing and stroking in between for maximum pleasure.

You’ll feel good knowing that he’s looking at you and feeling an intense amount of fun. And the best way to give a great blowjob is to enjoy the act yourself. Press a dildo or vibrator into your vagina as you suck on him. If you’re into double stimulation, we’d recommend getting a rabbit-style dildo to get the job done. 

The Mouth Off

This position is similar to the first one because it involves switching positions- the woman is lying down. Lay on the bed and have your head handing off the age while your partner enters your mouth from behind you. With your free hands, you can either rub against his thighs, masturbate, or both.

Whatever you choose, we can guarantee you’ll be over cloud 69. One thing to note that positions like this leave penetration control with the man, so you have to be vocal about when he’s going in too deep. In our opinion, this is a good blowjob position for people who like it a little rough now and then.

The Ultimate Blowjob Hack

Here’s our last trip on our guide for how to give a great blowjob.  It’s called “the grapefruit method” You might have heard of it from the movie.”

If you haven’t, you’re in luck because that movie shed a lot of light on how to give a good head.

For the grapefruit method, all you need is a decent sized grapefruit. Cut a hole on both ends of it and take out some of the fruit in the middle. That’s where his penis will go through.

When you’re ready to go down on your partner, slip the grapefruit on his penis and begin to stroke his penis using the grapefruit while you’re bobbing up and down as well.

We guarantee your partner will lose his marbles as you do it. The idea behind the grapefruit method is allowing your partner to experience two sensations at once. The first sensation is that of your mouth wrapped around his penis. The second sensation is that of being inside a vagina during sex. This sensation was caused by the repeated stroking of the grapefruit along his shaft. This is one of the best blowjob hacks ever.

Conclusion

We’ve come to the end of our guide on how to give a great blowjob. This article discussed everything from the etymology of the word “blow job” to crazy facts you probably never knew about it. Who would’ve guessed that bats weren’t as clueless as we thought? Or that a blow job resurrected an Egyptian god?

We also shared some tips for giving a great blowjob. Let’s quickly go over them again-

  • Don’t be in a rush; foreplay is essential and makes the act even better
  • lubrication is just as crucial for men. Be sure to use your tongue to get down there as wet as possible
  • Pick a rhythm and stick to it. The last thing you want is the party to be over before it’s fully started
  • Suck on it. Don’t forget blowjobs don’t involve any blowing. It’s about sucking.
  • Do nf50495ot use your teeth for any reason at all. Remember, you’re creating the illusion that he’s in your vagina. Does your vagina have teeth? No, we didn’t think so. (If yours does, you should contact us, it’d make a great blog post)
  • Go beyond using just your mouth and let your entire body get into the fun. Kiss his body, rub his thighs, play with his ear lobe, do stuff.
  • Finally, do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t try to deep throat his penis if that’s not your thing. If you’re not okay with swallowing, then don’t. It’s all about you and your partner having a good time.

We hope this article could teach you everything needed to give your partner a great blowjob the next time you get the chance. If you found this blog post helpful, share it with a friend. Or leave a comment if you have any contributions to make.

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